Thursday, October 4, 2018


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Rest – those ‘aaahh’ moments where ‘being’ trumps doing and we silently heal. Where is it that you find your rest? Much of modern society exalts productivity as one of its highest values. We applaud a person’s ability to multi-task, produce measurable results, and be an ‘all-things-to-all-people’ type who rarely says No. But there’s a problem. Our minds and bodies have limits and we need to assess our capacity to perform before we over commit and over-exhaust. As Christians, we can even fall into the trap of ‘doing for’ Jesus rather than ‘resting in’ Jesus.
Many of us have absorbed the consequences of mood swings, stress, migraines, sleep deprivation, cognitive inefficiencies, immune deficiencies, and more, largely because the desire to meet expectations and receive applause is stronger than taking care of our own health. Ironically, exhaustion and stress lead to greater unproductivity and all kinds of mental, physical, social, and emotional health problems that lead to more serious symptoms and disease. To combat aging, disease, genetic disturbance, and poor lifestyle management, we need to prioritize rest as a primary ingredient into our lives.
Always ‘Unresting’
From eating a sandwich to taking in noise from the environment while we’re on the computer, every human being is constantly absorbing new data from the environment. Our minds and bodies are always on the move – adapting, regenerating, and renewing. Rest is not passivity – it’s just the opposite. When we rest as human beings, the goal is not just to escape stress and rigor for a moment – it’s the process by which we restore our health and keep on contently moving into further levels of productivity. Our bodies not only need to survive, they want to thrive, and if we short-change rest, then our immune systems will become overworked and we’ll end up being less productive, less healthy, and less satisfied in the long run.
What Is Rest?
For the purposes of this article, rest will be defined as a necessary habit that seeks to restore well-being through active or passive activities that lacks physical or mental discomfort, exertion, or imbalance. [i]
blurry people from fast paced, busy staircase intersection inside a mall

No Time To Rest
Sometimes life gets busy and we simply must get busy with it. Different times, seasons, and stressors can require life imbalance that can’t be changed or dismissed just because it’s our preference. So, when we talk of rest in a discussion like this, we’re not denying the existence of these seasons but rather advocating for a general life pattern for our lives to principled upon.
Designing and scheduling rest will look differently for different people, so chose a schedule and design that makes sense for your daily routine. Breaks are not meant to just passively sit, they are meant to rejuvenate with healthy living choices which blend a variety of wellness strategies from all areas of life - physical exercise, stress reduction, healthy eating, solitude, socialization, and more. [ii] Because our definition of rest indicates a lack of ‘exertion’, positive lifestyle habits like preparing nutritious food and exercising will not be discussed. Take a look at the list below and choose 1-2 that you could begin to strategize toward positive change today.

1. Schedule Rest. Take a mental/ physical break after 90 minutes of concentrated, mental effort (especially important for those with office jobs). Walk, socialize, listen to music, work-out. Change your break ‘style’ to add variety. Incorporate breaks throughout your day (ie walk 3 times for 10 minutes rather than once for 30 minutes), alternate sitting and standing, [iii] spend time building relationships to increase job satisfaction, coping, and interpersonal relationships [iv]

2. Do The Opposite Of What You Are Doing. Change positions/ spaces from your primarily work area (ie if you work in an office, consider taking a walk outside. If you work dark space, move into a bright one). Ideally, walk outside as nature-based stimuli have shown to promote the most optimal healing [v]

3. Sleep As Passive Rest. The National Heart & Lung Institute recommends 11-12 hours for preschoolers, 10 hours for school-aged kids, 9-10 hours for teens, and 7-8 hours for adults. Heart disease, migraines, obesity, diabetes, and mood disorders have been linked to a lack of sleep. [vi] Avoid afternoon naps, caffeine late in the day, and computer use before bed.

4. Socialize In Your Rest. No man is an island (John Donne). We were made for connection. Don’t have a friend? Be one to get one. Activity groups are a great way to connect and keep accountable.

5. Incorporate Physical Touch In Your Rest. Touch increases vascular activity and promotes emotional and physical well-being. Hugs, therapeutic massage, pets, and spousal affection can be vital tools to feeding our hunger for emotional connection and well-being.
lady rests in hammock overlooking calm waters to rejuvenate her spirit

6. Physical meditation is defined here as the process of using our physical (bodily) system to influence our emotional and mental well-being. Consider guided deep breathing, slow stretching, and progressive muscle relaxation program's. When they’re practiced regularly, stress, anxiety, blood pressure and pain levels have been shown to decrease, and cardiovascular and immune system levels improve. [vii]

7. Laugh: Did you know that laughing can decrease pain and promotes muscle relaxation and cardiovascular strength? Schedule hilarity to decrease the emotional and mental tension of the day – your mind and body will thank you for it (especially if you work in an intensive environment (i.e. emergency services)! [viii]

Spiritual Rest - Did Jesus Rest?
God practiced rest at the beginning of creation (Genesis 2:2-3), and commanded that it be a routine part of the weekly practice of His people. (Exodus 16:30, 20:11). Jesus also prioritized rest while He was on earth because throughout the gospels He regularly seeks out desolate places to rest and encourages His disciples to the same. (Mark 1:45, 6:31,) His solitude was often private or just with the disciples. At times, it occurred in the morning to begin His day (Mark 1:45), and also occurred during times of distress like before His crucifixion. It was often accompanied by prayer (Mark 6:46).

Solitude & Biblical Meditation : When we interact with Scripture we interact with Christ Himself who is the Word (John 1:1). The Bible is not a story about God, the Bible communicates the very words of God. Unlike any other book it is alive and active (Hebrews 4:12) – it is God actually speaking. Like a sports game is enhanced in its enjoyment when we know the rules of play, our spiritual connection with Jesus increases when we understand who He actually is and what He has done. While the Bible is God initiating a conversation with us, the process of Biblical Meditation is the process of us continuing the conversation and communicating back to Him. In biblical meditation we reflect on Who He is as informed by biblical truth, and respond in our adoration, thanks, confession, and requests. This often happens best in Solitude. Have a schedule times to steal away to a desolate place and commune with Him?

Entering Into True Rest
Jesus Himself promises to give us rest when we ‘labor and are heavy laden’ (Matthew 11:28), but Jesus’ rest goes further than a practice or a place. The Old Testament law of obeying all the rules and resting on the seventh day of the week, symbolically point forward to Jesus because He is the One who obeyed perfectly on our behalf so that we can now fully rest in Him. Hebrews talks about entering Jesus’ rest because the rest that He offers goes beyond the giving of mental restoration to the giving of Himself. He encourages us to come to Him as a person and find rest for our souls. (Matthew 11:29) Because of Jesus’ life and work we are free – free from the trap of pursuing earthly things which will always disappoint. No amount of healthy strategies we employ will prevent the inevitability of death, and it is right there in the choke of that reality that those who believe in Him breathe fresh oxygen in the hope of the eternity that awaits them. Yet the benefits of His rest are not just a warm eternal thought, but an earthly experience as well. We find our rest as we commune with Him – that’s why we’ve got to connect with Him through His Word. Our salvation is secure. His sovereign plans will not be thwarted. His resurrected power is true and experiential for the darkest of earthly circumstances because we ultimately find our contentment and rest in Him, not a strategy.
Spiritual rest is not an equal part of our holistic ‘rest’ plan, it is the crucial, fundamental cornerstone on top of which all other holistic strategies must align with for a proper healthy human experience. Until we learn what it means to preach the gospel to ourselves in all circumstances and find our rest in Him, all other forms of rest will provide temporal benefit that will never fully satisfy. Human strategies will likely move us farther ahead than we are in many ways, but the power and work of Jesus will move us beyond what we are in ourselves, to purposes beyond what we can imagine and into the rest of Jesus Himself.
Rest is not passive and it is holistic. Entering into spiritual rest is the crucial center point upon which all other holistic forms of rest are built upon which lead to optimal spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while . (Mark 6:31)
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[i] The Journal Of School Nursing: The Official Publication Of The National Association Of School Nurses [J Sch Nurs] 2016 Aug; Vol. 32 (4), pp. 234-40. Date of Electronic Publication: 2015 Oct 05.
[ii] Am J Geriatr Psychiatry. 2007 Mar;15(3):266; author reply 267. (PMID: 17322139)
[iv] Publisher: Japan Society for Occupational Health Country of Publication: Japan NLM ID: 9616320 Publication Model: Print-Electronic Cited Medium: InternetISSN: 1348-9585 (Electronic)Linking ISSN: 13419145 NLM ISO Abbreviation: J Occup Health Subsets: MEDLINE
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